When will you stop making excuses?

Excuses 2Excuses, excuses. Invented reasons we create to defend our behavior, to neglect taking a particular kind of action, or as a means of negating responsibility. It’s all too easy to make excuses. Everyday there are things that need to be done with opposite reasons for not getting them done. It’s too late.

I told my friend I would meet her for dinner.

My show comes on tonight.

I just need to take a nap first.

It’s raining. (It’s raining has to be one of the most popular excuses on the planet. We use it on tasks that don’t even require outside activities.)

 

The list goes on with the number of excuses we make for ourselves. There is only one reason why we all make excuses. And that is FEAR.

 

Fear of Failure. Fear of Embarrassment. Fear of Change. Fear of Uncertainty. Fear of Responsibility.

 

We fear the outcome of completing a task and as well as the outcome if we don’t complete it. This defense mechanism stifles us. It suspends our life in time as the world around us continues to flourish. Instead of doing what needs to be done, an enormous amount of time is spent doing a lot of nothing. Then we sit and think about how we wish we had gotten something accomplished and by the end of the day it has now transferred onto tomorrow’s “things to do list”.

 

The fact of the matter is it takes discipline to do the things that need to get done even if you don’t want to do it. It takes discipline to say,

 

“No matter what, I will get this done before bed.”

 

It takes discipline to put your phone down for an hour. It takes discipline to record your favorite shows instead of turning on the television as soon as you get home. It takes discipline to turn down an invite for drinks after work when you know you have things that need to get done.

 

“It takes discipline to stop making excuses.”

 

You will still be fearful on your first couple of attempts developing discipline. Excuses will continue to pop-up day after day, but you must ignore them and move forward anyway. Until you start ignoring the excuses and pressing onward, the things you want out of life will forever be lingering outside your reach. The gap between your current and desired reality will only get larger.

 

Stop focusing on the problems, excuses, and the fears. Set your sights on your next steps, open opportunities, your desires, and your dreams. Stop allowing excuses to mold your today and your tomorrow. There will always be alternate options that are meant to distract you from what you need to do. If you have a dream you must be wise enough to recognize it and strong enough to not let it go.

 

Feel Free,

Mel