There are times you can want something badly enough that you may sound crazy. You yearn for something that seems so out of reach yet so close at the same time, and you believe that with enough effort you could actually have it. It doesn’t matter if no one around you has found it or reached where you aspire to go. The point is you know what you are capable of and that’s enough for you. I have heard from so many females that there are no guys available and all are players, not smart enough, not cute enough, not fly enough, not established enough and so on. Yes, there may not be an infinite pool of perfect men to choose from, but all you need is one. The same can be said about finding a job. So many people are unemployed and yes I did probably send out 50 to 75 applications until I landed a job I was willing to take. I also knew that if I stayed consistent, stayed hungry, I would find a position. But even when you finally get there, you may realize it’s not what you thought it would be. Something may be off, not quite right, and now you want something different.
You’ve worked hard to get here. Friends and family are telling you how many other people would love to be in your shoes. Yet, the sense of dissatisfaction grows as you want more, and maybe not more but different. Don’t fear this pull. Allow it to push you with urgency into the next phase in your life. We were never meant to be dormant and fall into the trap of complacency. We are urged to venture, explore, and discover new parts about life and ourselves.
Whenever someone is pressing that you stay content with where you are, take it with a grain of salt. You moving on and forward can be an undeniable sign that they are not, and that can make people extremely uncomfortable. Now this is also not a memo to be a rolling stone- in any sense.
You are where you are for a reason. (I can’t stress that enough)
The question is:
How do you keep moving forward while in the same place?
- If it’s within a certain job or with a certain person, never stop working on yourself. By consistently progressing, that job or that relationship may turn into what you actually want and if not you are now better prepared for the next thing to come along and less fearsome of it.
- Get a hobby. Honestly, it’s amazing how much you learn about yourself when you work on something you love. In the process you will also connect with others who have the same interests. Not only does this spice up your lifestyle it gives you an opportunity become an expert in an area that may be beneficial for your future. (Your talents always follow you)
-Lastly, this has been the most beneficial but let me warn you, it is also the most difficult. Be the solution, not the problem. It is all too easy to become part of the ruckus and jump on the bandwagon of confusion and uncooperativeness. But this strategy does nothing for you nor the people affected. Find ways to solve issues instead of becoming one.
Don’t stifle the hunger- feed it.