When Something Happens You're Not Ready For

IV makes it very clear that he's a big boy and no longer needs me like that lol
IV makes it very clear that he's a big boy and no longer needs me like that lol

The other day something happened that I was not ready for. I couldn’t plan for it. There was no way I could've prepared for what I was about to experience. I’ve been breastfeeding my son now for 7 months. At this point I pump majority of the time and nurse at least once per day. One night I went to nurse IV before bed like I usually do, and he denied me.

When I say he denied me, I mean he completely refused my nipple.

I knew he was hungry, but it was clear he didn’t want milk from that source. To entice him, I even squeezed out a little milk on his mouth, but he wasn’t having it. He wanted the bottle, and there was nothing I could do to sway his mind. So I gave in. I made him a bottle, and he gladly grabbed it from me. A few minutes later, he laid in my arms completely full and sound asleep.

I sat there confused, not really knowing what to do next. IV’s new found declaration had caught me off guard. See, we have a system. I change him, nurse him, then rock him to sleep. He was messing that system up. I enjoyed nursing my booger before bed. Not only was it bonding time for us, it was also one less pumping session for me. But in a blink of an eye, he was on to something new. Our system had changed and I had to adapt.

This moment reminded me of how change is inevitable and it will hit you whether you’re ready or not. You can resist it try to holding onto the same routine, the same situation, the same mundaneness or you can acknowledge the change, shift gears, readjust, and evolve.

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When it comes to building a business or building a brand, situations will happen that can throw you off your game. You could lose (or even better)break your jump drive with all your material on it, a fight with your boyfriend can turn your mood upside down and hinder your motivation to work, you can plan to be a feature for an event but find out last minute you are now the headliner. (These are just examples. None of these things have ever happened to me -__-). All these things can be frustrating because now you must disregard how you feel and do what you need to do. Because your business, your brand, does not care about your feelings, how thrown off you are or unprepared you are . Your creativity, your vision, your dream is selfish and just wants to be shared by any means necessary.

You must dry those tears, muster up some courage and put your big girl pants on, because entrepreneurship is not for the weak. It is not for the easily flustered. It is not for the ones who can’t take a hit. Entrepreneurship is for those who can stand tall when they’re scared. It’s for those who can laugh when they’re mad. It’s for those who can see a roadblock and find another way.

When change happens it is easy to wallow about how unfair it is and how it’s messing up your plans and ultimately ruining your life. It’s so easy to choose defeat. But once you choose defeat, your choice for success is out the window. You have now chosen a new path and that path keeps you exactly where you are.

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If you have chosen entrepreneurship as your career path that means you have made a decision to find your version of success. What you will come to find out is this question will be asked of you time and time again:

Are you sure you want to do this?

Every time things don’t go as planned, every time you’re caught off guard, every time something happens you’re not ready for, you will have to decide, “Are you in or are you out?”

Time and time again you’ll say yes, grudgingly maybe, but your heart will say yes.

There’s no denying what the heart wants.

To all my entrepreneurs who are building a brand, building a business, building a lifestyle, I encourage you to embrace unexpected circumstances. Refuse the urge to fight it, pity yourself, or wait for things to go back to how they were. Because this is the path you’ve chosen, and it didn’t promise you routine, predictability or perfection. It can only ensure growth, novelty, and adventure.  Luckily we need all those things.

Feel Free,

Mel